Does this mean you should never, ever date a friend's ex? If this is the case, you'd be missing out on years of potential passion if you passed up on this girl for the sake of sparing your friends' feelings. This may occur consciously or unconsciously, where you use the best friend to get back at your ex. Inherently, it's a selfish thing. We have a real connection. Or, you may be more into the sneaking around and hiding you have to do with the best friend and find the risk exciting.
I found out about this the hard way, in a similar situation.
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This could help your ex to come to terms with what you are saying. Also, obviously, Josie was an outrageously foxy person: Then, remind yourself that you are with the best friend because he does things differently and offers different things than your ex did. You may also give your ex space to process by opting out of get together with mutual friends. We were all out one night and one thing lead to another.